Writing Down The Dark
There are other types of grief.
Our pain isn’t always about something we’ve lost. Sometimes it’s about something we never had, or something others can’t see or understand.
Writing Down The Dark is a 30 day process of gently releasing all that has been pushed down and gone unacknowledged. Our feelings will find their way out eventually, no matter how hard we try to stuff them down, often through illness or relationship breakdown. Rather than having them emerge indirectly in ways that harm us, this process allows you to find acceptance, healing, validation and release in a safe and gentle way.
- past tense: disenfranchised
- to deprive (someone) of their rights or privilege.
Feelings become disenfranchised when society says we shouldn’t feel them. So we feel like we can’t talk about what happened to us. We can’t find support. We feel alone. We believe our feelings are wrong. We start to wonder if there’s something wrong with us.
Many of us have experienced well-meaning platitudes that end up further dismissing our feelings. You might have heard:
- There’s no use dwelling on the past.
- Well no-one’s perfect, I’m sure they didn’t mean it.
- What good does it do to keep thinking about it?
- You’re being negative, stop focusing on it
- It’s for the best
- This will make you stronger
- At least you….
- Don’t worry, you’ll meet someone else / have another baby / find a new career
- I know exactly how you feel
- You’re overreacting / too sensitive / making too much of it.
Pain and loss need to be expressed in order to be complete. This is especially effective when accompanied by what Alice Miller called ‘an enlightened witness‘, somebody who can witness your pain without judging it or trying to diminish your experience.
Whatever your loss, there is wisdom giving it a voice. There is relief in speaking about our pain in the company of those who can make space for it. That’s what Writing Down The Dark is all about.
Wild animals are almost never traumatised, because they let themselves complete the recovery process naturally. They don’t have a society around them that disapproves of their natural responses and tries to distract them.
Grief works the same way. If we were unable to fully express our feelings about what we have lost – because we were too busy looking after others, because others were upset by our grief and urging us to move on, because our loss was not recognised as legitimate – then it stays within us.
And as Alice Miller once said, the body will eventually present its bill.
Writing and art are gentle ways to allow the natural grieving process to occur. They are particularly effective when accompanied by others who can witness your feelings and support you in them.
We often fear that acknowledging the pain will prolong our suffering but usually the opposite happens. As we listen to what we need and make space for it, we are released.
So I wanted to create a space for your unacknowledged feelings, feelings that have gone underground because the world said no you can’t have that here, pain that is looking for an outlet so it can let go of its grip on your soul.
|Prompt 1: Hearts
Prompt 2: Spaces
Prompt 3: Masks
Prompt 4: They said
Prompt 5: Shadows
|Prompt 6: Earth
Prompt 7: Wild
Prompt 8: Fall
Prompt 9: Memory
Prompt 10: Exit
|Prompt 11: Self
Prompt 12: Time
Prompt 13: Home
Prompt 14: Loss
Prompt 15: Life
30 days of support and connection
30 days of gentle self-expression
30 days of healing your heart
You’ll receive a prompt to explore every second day. Most will be journalling prompts but some days there will be art activities (no experience required). You’ll also receive live Q & A support each week along with a private FB page to share inspiration and support. Join us:
- to acknowledge denied feelings and unrecognised loss
- to embody new ways of living your story
- to open doors to new meanings
- to find your true north.
“Writing with deep feeling improves immune system function, decreases stress, lowers blood pressure, and increases positive short and long term mood changes” – James Pennebaker, author of Writing to Heal.
We begin October 30.
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