I offer sanctuary for wounded souls, a place for you to set down your pain for a while, to explore its meaning…and maybe when you pick it up again after listening a little, you’ll find your relationship to it has shifted.

 

You may have received advice, platitudes, reassurance, and other responses that were less than helpful and even made you feel worse. Here you will not be told to ‘stop dwelling on the past’ or ‘all things happen for a reason’. You will not be given a deadline for your recovery to be complete, and you will not be expected to be ‘over it’ by now.

The inability to be sad when it’s time to be sad … is something that can depress people. The antidote for depression is sadness, and it is sadness that must be taught. To be heartbroken isn’t a diagnosis. It’s a skill.”

 

Stephen Jenkinson

Most of what is labelled ‘complicated grief’ is actually just normal healthy grief. There are some things we will never get over, despite the constant pressure from society to ‘move on’ and ‘let it go’. We can still feel happy – happiness is just one of the many emotions we experience in a fully lived life.

 

It is possible to have a life filled with both happiness and sorrow – one does not preclude the other. But because some emotions are labelled ‘wrong’, we send them into battle against each other. There are no bad emotions, they are all there for our expression of life and self. When we block them because we’re told they’re ‘bad’, we express them in other ways, often through the body.

Our wounds, our sorrow, our trauma and grief, these things are holy. They deserve space, to be seen and heard and held. They tell us who we are.”

 

Leanne Chapman

You’ll find many resources here. Click on the menu links to start exploring, and use the contact page to drop me a line, I’d love to hear from you.

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